The Living Word

Posted 08/02/2013 by mummyofthree
Categories: Children, Homeschooling


I had a wonderful moment the other day. It was the first day of school this calendar year, and already it was not going well.

My eldest was playing up, being grumpy about even fetching his Bible from his room, and flatly refusing to read aloud from it. I had decided to read from Colossians 3, verses 12-24, encompassing what should be our attitudes towards others and towards work. I got through the first verse, which talks about putting on tender mercies, kindness, humility, meekness and patience, explaining each term and giving – or asking the children to give – an example or two of each character trait discussed. L started contributing, then asked to read subsequent verses out loud.

After the Bible study, L spontaneously offered a sincere apology for his earlier behaviour, and the relationship and right attitude were restored. I was humbled to see how all my words had had no effect, but the Word of God got right to the heart of the matter and the Holy Spirit prompted contrition and repentance from L.

Hebrews 4:12: For the word of God is living and active and sharper than any two-edged sword, and piercing as far as the division of soul and spirit, of both joints and marrow, and able to judge the thoughts and intentions of the heart.


Posted 11/11/2012 by mummyofthree
Categories: Children, Homeschooling

LMS’ prayer this morning: “Thank you God for giving us our Mummy. Thank you that she’s such a good teacher to all of us, and thank you for this lovely world. Amen.”

I don’t always feel like I’m doing a very good job of fulfilling the calling to which God has called me, that of homeschooling my three wonderful children. However, God is gracious, of that I am certain, and He works in spite of, or maybe because of our weaknesses.

Weekly update 6 Oct 2012

Posted 06/10/2012 by mummyofthree
Categories: Children, Homeschooling


This week has been a struggle. I’ve not posted an update for a while; I guess I just got out of the habit, but thought I’d like to keep a bit more of a record of our regular weeks.

I’ve struggled to keep LMS at her work. The workload has increased this academic year, as we’ve started the learning to read programme. She’s doing very well, knowing all her letters and their sounds, but has a chronic lack of confidence, complains of tiredness at the beginning of the day, and has a “can’t do it” attitude. Consequently, a couple of days the work has gone well into the afternoon, one day not finishing until 4pm! I was mentally and emotionally exhausted by then. I’m hoping things will pick up a bit next week, having cut out a couple of non-essential subjects, which are mainly just colouring pages or simple penmanship activities.

L is still amazingly well-motivated, most days having done all his work before breakfast. He’s then super-keen to do his chores, in order to keep him in new Lego with his earnings! His attitude frequently leaves rather a lot to be desired, but we’re working on it.

The biggest challenge is consistency with CM’s behaviour. He’s being incredibly naughty at times, hitting his big sister, who typically responds in drama-queen style, but of course he knows he shouldn’t hit, especially girls. He can be totally gorgeous as well, loving cuddles and physical play, so there’s still a lot of fun during my days.

I’m quite peaceful about all the hard parts, perhaps surprisingly, but I know God is in control, and that we as parents cannot change our children. Only God can do that; what we are called to is to be faithful and simply do the next thing. He will take care of the rest. I know God is using this to teach me, and mould me into the woman, wife and mother He would have me be.


Posted 24/09/2012 by mummyofthree
Categories: Children


I’ve not posted here for a while. Initially, it was because my father-in-law died, and I was feeling like if I had posted, it would be rather melancholy and I didn’t feel like writing anyway. Then I sort of got out of the habit of writing blog posts and before I knew it, all of August and most of September had slipped away, and here we are.

I mentioned that my father-in-law died. The extra sting in the tail was that he died on LMS’ fifth birthday. Although it was extremely sad for those of us left behind, we know we’ll see him again in heaven. He was a believer and it’s a huge comfort to know that he’s seeing Jesus face-to-face in glory, as we will too, one day. In fact, when we told the children, LMS said “Is he in heaven?” When told that he was, she replied “Then we’ll see him again”. Such faith is so encouraging in one so young.

On a happier note, although CM’s behaviour has been pretty challenging lately, he has been really sweet and thoughtful on a couple of occasions. At church last week, he went up to one of the older ladies and said to her “Hello, M, I love your hair; it looks really nice”. Then yesterday, when doing a craft in crèche, he asked to do the exact same things for L and LMS, as well as for a little girl who is sometimes in crèche, but wasn’t yesterday.

It’s wonderful to see character developing, and knowing that there’s the potential to grow up to be thoughtful, caring, sweet, godly adults, but what a responsibility for us, as parents, to nurture that and help them as they mature. We are weak, but God is strong, and for that, I’m very thankful.

3in30 July 29th

Posted 30/07/2012 by mummyofthree
Categories: 3in30

3in30 Challenge

1. Weight loss/ sugar elimination. Oh dear! A busy week last week for various reasons, with some situations with less-than-ideal food choices, so I’ve ended up putting on all the weight I lost earlier in the month. Not sure whether hormonal influences are in play here, but either way, it was a disaster. On the chocolate front, not bad at all, but since that was partially a means to an end, I’m rather gutted at the gain.

2. Blogging regularly. Success again! Admittedly, the latest post went up earlier today, but I did start it in good time, but was thwarted by the general busyness last week. Hopefully this will continue, but I do wonder if I’ll run out of material, although I do have a couple of posts in the making, so I should be ok for a few weeks.

3. Pray for my husband every day. Six out of seven, which I consider success. It has improved from not at all, to five days per week, to six now. I’m going for progress, not perfection, so success!

Two days left to finish strong and ponder goals for August.


Posted 30/07/2012 by mummyofthree
Categories: Children, Homemaking, Homeschooling


Why do we allow ourselves to do it?

We start with good intentions, wanting the best for our children… but what is “best”? We look at others’ lives and decide our family needs…, should be doing…, is missing out if we don’t…

It starts when our children are newborns, and at new mums’ groups we compare birth stories and developmental milestones. As they grow, so do our comparisons: eating, walking, reading, writing, maths ability, behaviour… the list of possibilities is endless.

I used to pride myself on not getting sucked into the comparison trap. I wasn’t worried when my children crawled or walked late. As long as they were growing and eating healthily, I didn’t stress about food. I was relaxed about reading and writing, knowing that children get it in the end, and had confidence in my homeschool curriculum, that it would work.

Then it all went wrong. I started reading more blogs written by Christian homeschooling mums. Now this wasn’t a bad thing, on the contrary, I’ve found them very encouraging and inspiring. However, instead of comparing my children, I’ve started comparing myself. Not so helpful.

Don’t get me wrong, I’m not saying that reading blogs is unhelpful, or that I personally shouldn’t read blogs. On the contrary, observing others has helped me develop a daily rhythm that I undoubtedly wouldn’t have managed otherwise. I really appreciate knowing that I am not alone in this often somewhat isolated world of homeschooling, especially on rainy days when it’s difficult to get out and about. I have found many useful ideas from fellow mums, such as the how, when and what of training children to do everyday household chores.

But why do we compare our children/ourselves? I think in the vast majority of people it is because we want to do the best we can for our families. I have come to realise that whilst this is a noble reason, we are seeking praise in the wrong places. I certainly wanted to be a good mother so my husband and children would appreciate me, or so I could sit down at the end of a busy day feeling like I had done well for my children.

What I have realised is that I need a change in perspective. We can strive to be better in our own strength to earn the praise of men, or we can lean on Jesus for God’s glory and to please Him.

Colossians 3:23-24
Whatever you do, work heartily, as for the Lord and not for men, knowing that from the Lord you will receive the inheritance as your reward. You are serving the Lord Christ.c

Looking to the Lord, following Him, obeying Him, and serving Him is the only way we can find true fulfilment in our difficult roles as homemakers, wives, mothers, women, and ultimately, children of God.

I am a child of God, and so are you.

3in30 July 22nd

Posted 23/07/2012 by mummyofthree
Categories: 3in30

3in30 Challenge

1. Weight loss/ sugar elimination. Not bad, but not great. After my successful week last week, I had a more relaxed week due to family visiting from the UK. I largely stuck to the eating plan with only the odd aberration such as a single dark chocolate when everyone else was eating the most delicious ice creams I’ve ever tasted, but it seems that I’m very sensitive to something as yet undiscovered, so I put on a small amount of weight. Back to plan midweek this coming week, though, so I’m not too worried.

2. Blogging regularly. Success! Hubby took our visitors out to see some live music Saturday night, so I had a quiet evening in and managed to get a blog post done.

3. Pray for my husband every day. Still didn’t manage every day, but there’s still time left this month.

One whole week left in July, so full steam ahead to try and achieve my goals this coming week.


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